Whoa! Where did all the time go? 2018 is here! For many that means they’re either building off of what they experienced in 2017 or they’re trying to do something completely new and different. New Year’s resolutions anyone? Sometimes that new and different is letting go of habits, grudges or destructive behaviors. For others it is picking up new positive habits, discovering their untapped talents or reinforcing good behaviors like healthier eating or exercise. These are pretty standard as far as resolutions go. But if we are going to go with resolution standards then that means only 8% of the people that make these resolutions will succeed at keeping them. Ouch.
Some people don’t like to make resolutions for that reason, they don’t like to try something that they feel they’re more than likely going to fail at. Some people just don’t like to call them “resolutions” because that seems like such a complex word or that it means they’re resolving to change something about who they are and that is a pessimistic point of view. Some like to use the word “goals” instead as they seem much simpler and more positive.
Nonetheless, some people choose not to make any goals or resolutions or whatever else, they just decide to go into the next year, seeing it as just another day. I’m not going to say that they’re wrong to not make goals or resolutions, but it doesn’t seem like life could be very fun or exciting without something to look forward to or strive for. And if you’re not putting any energy or effort into your life you are missing an opportunity to make a difference in somebody’s world, maybe yours.
So whether or not you made a resolution or goal or whatever else you want to call it, let me implore you to do a few things in 2018 and see how your world changes. These challenges I give you will be different from your normal goals or resolutions, these are all meant to change the way your mind thinks and the way you see the world. Thus causing you to change it. Let’s see how you can build a better year in 2018 with your brain.
Dream, and never lose faith in what could be. Do you remember when you were a young kid in kindergarten or elementary school and the grown ups asked you what you wanted to be? And how they encouraged you and played along with that dream? I’m sure a lot has happened between then and now that probably derailed you from going after it. Or maybe your dream changed as you got older. But it is very important to still have a dream. And no matter how big or how small you should still take steps towards that dream. Need help getting there? Take a listen to my first podcast episode with Dream Manager Jonathan Dunn of Break Free Enterprises and find out how to contact him here.
Create the future with positive thoughts. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, thoughts become things. When your attitude is negative and you keep thinking and worrying that things are going to come out bad, they generally will. But if you jump out of bed, excited for the day and the endless possibilities then your day will probably be that much more fun. Athletes use visual therapy or sometimes hypnosis to see themselves having a good game and they are known to perform better. To read more about how much your thoughts can have an impact on you click here.
Imagine what could happen if doubt and fear were cast aside. Maybe good things don’t happen in your life not because of your negative thinking but more your reluctance to do anything. You might have found your dream job that would be perfect for you, but you don’t apply because you don’t think you’re qualified enough. That attractive person you’ve made eye contact with at a place you both frequent could be your soulmate, but you’re too nervous to talk because of fear of getting shot down. You don’t ask for a raise or promotion. You pass the ball instead of taking the open shot. Because you let fear control you, someone else got the job, the girl/guy, the promotion and the glory of the game winner. To paraphrase Barbara De Angelis, “you never lose by loving(trying). You always lose by holding back.”
Breathe, relax, and center yourself. Even with positive thinking, moving towards our dreams and overcoming fear, we still are going to hit stumbling blocks leaving us frustrated and disoriented. It’s okay, it’s part of life as a human. The important thing when this happens is how we react. We may find ourselves in scenarios where family and little ones are watching or people from work are watching when something goes awry, and how you react could be the difference in how they see you, and in the case of the little ones, what kind of behavior they believe is appropriate. It takes just one second for something to come flying out of your mouth that you can’t ever take back versus a few seconds more to take some deep breaths. For more ways on how to calm yourself and read a story on a donut shop manager that failed to do so, check out this piece here.
Inspire others to be their best and follow their heart. One of the most fulfilling things you can do in life is to help others. In the middle of last year I took a promotion at work that was nice, financially. But it took time away from finding more opportunities to be doing what I love, and that is helping people find the healthiest and happiest versions of themselves. I’ve since stepped down from that position and rededicated myself to my main focus. In addition hoping to help people is why I started this blog last year. Also why I added a podcast at the end of the year where I interview people who do inspiring work. I don’t know exactly how many people I’m reaching or helping and I know this page isn’t the most read blog in history, but that’s okay. Every now and then I get glimpses of someone being moved or inspired. Every now and then I get to celebrate achievements with my clients. I get to witness happiness of my friends near and far and try to lift them up in times of sorrow. I don’t do it for the appreciation, for the acknowledgement or the credit. I do it because it feels good to help others and see them do good.
There you have it, a blue print on how to build yourself a better 2018. Dream, Create, Imagine, Breathe, Inspire. That’s just 5 things to focus on and it all starts with your mind. That’s just the blue print though. It’s up to you to put them into action. Go out there and make 2018 your best year yet!
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